Generally, the past and the present. Marriage counseling tends to concentrate on the present more than the past, and couples counseling has a more past focus and looking at unhealthy patterns of relating. Marriage counseling usually has an extensive relationship history to take into consideration when creating solutions.
The goals can be the same and often are the same in marriage and couples counseling. Reducing conflict, creating effective communication, changing behavior patterns, finding realistic and practical solutions, and empowering the couple, are all goals often seen in counseling. Of course, every relationship is different and will have specific and tailored goals.
Despite that nearly 1 in 4 marriages experience infidelity, no one goes into a marriage prepared for the crisis that an affair introduces. I take a non-judgmental yet direct approach to treating infidelity. The first thing I will help you accomplish is the simple task of knowing what to do next, how to rebuild trust after an affair, and how to move forward.
As adults, we build attachments to each other by creating secure bonds built on love and trust. When an affair breaks those bonds, it can feel like they whole world is different than it used to be before the infidelity was revealed.
Whether you have recently told your spouse or partner about an affair, or whether you have recently discovered infidelity, finding competent help is a crucial first step toward healing. Don’t wait to reach out for the help you need. Call today to discover how I can help your marriage or relationship recover from infidelity.
I treat infidelity as an act or behavior that has extended outside the boundaries of a relationship. First, I help couples stabilize any potential crises that the discovery provokes. In other words, I help you figure out how to do life. Next, I promote interactions that foster healing and recovery. I help you through the questions from a non-judgmental perspective. Finally, I help couples respond to the needs that the infidelity reveals.
My approach to couple’s therapy is client driven. In your first session, we will work together to identify the goals you want to reach. Every few meetings, we will check-in towards our progress on your goals. Everyone’s goals are different, but they usually involve reducing conflict, finding ways to communicate effectively, and increasing intimacy. You are the expert on you. I am an expert on relationships, how they break down, and how to heal them.
Around 80% of therapists work with couples, yet a vast majority have not been formally educated in couples therapy. Couples therapy is different from almost any other form of psychotherapy. Energy and emotions run high. As a Marriage and Family therapist, my education is focused directly on the dynamics of couples and families. My practice is therefore built around the dynamic work that is rebuilding intimate relationships. If you need more information about my background, please don't hesitate to call me at (813) 391-3495.
Generally, marriage counseling flows through a process of discovery that reveals the purpose and function of conflict - including how to use it in healthy ways - building intimacy that deepens a relationship, and creating lasting solutions that keep you from having to come back. I’ll direct you toward creative ways make positive changes a reality.